Black love is a beautiful thing. So is interracial love. Love in general. I enjoy seeing people in love and I couldn’t care less about what they look like. If two people are crazy about one another, do looks really matter?
For some reason a lot of Black men willhave a problem with Black women dating outside their race (which is stupid) and then turn around a say they don’t date Black women.So leave us alone then! Why would you even be upset about who we date? It has nothing to do with you.
It’s fine if you don’t like us. We’re all angry, ghetto, and ugly, right? But you obviouslyhave some type of infatuation with us because you guys constantly feel the need to state reasons why we’re “un-dateable.”To me it just sounds like you’re trying to convince yourself. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ It’s your life and your prerogative. I just need you to know that real love needs no explanation (ex.: “…and that’s why I only date white women.”)
We’re practically coons if we (Black women) date outside of our race. Especially if our significant other is a White man. Then it’s, “You’re dating him because he resembles the person you’ve worshiped your whole life (Jesus).” Yes, that is a shot at Hidden Colors. They had a lot to say about Black women dating interracially but said absolutely nothing about Black men. Even though Black men are 68% more likely to date outside of their race. They’d probably just find a way to blame Black women for that too.
Some jerk on Facebook went out of their way to make a video stating that Black women are only submissive toward White men. A lot of idiots actually agreed with this and failed to acknowledge the fact that those were women who were in happy relationships. When a woman has a partner who is fulfilling, she’ll treat him like a king. When you treat a woman like crap, she’ll act like crap. No one made a compilation video of happy Black couples with “submissive” women. Don’t give me that BS like, “Oh, those videos don’t exist.” I’ll list 5:
To Black Women: We can have black love. We can have swirl love. We can be with whoever we want. You don’t have to get upset with a Black man dating outside of his race. You can do it too. You can ignore the Black man who constantly feels the need to explain why he hates us. You leave that self-hating negro alone and let him deal with that on his own. Just know that his hate has nothing to do with you. Even when they say, “I only like light-skinned women,” that has nothing to do with you. Don’t let someone cause you to be jealous of a woman who is lighter or darker than you. Colorism is a problem in our community and there is too much division amongst our women. Instead, just let it go. Let those guys (or girls) have their preference. As long as your focused on being the best you can be, no one else’s opinion will matter.
We need to focus on loving ourselves instead of hating others. Know that the blame game will never result in happiness or unity. We need one another to move ahead but right now we’re acting like crabs in a barrel. Learn to let things go. If someone hurts you, learn from it. Don’t try to use your pain to demean or belittle a possible ally. Try spreading some compassion and understanding the next time you feel the need to hate.