Scientists say that when you fall in love it’s all in your mind. I disagree. Have you seen the movie Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind? Yes, it’s a fictional movie but it has some truth to it. Even when the two main characters erased their memories of each other, their connection didn’t fade. They were still drawn to one another.
When you find someone on your same wavelength, your same frequency, it’s not just in your mind. And as bad as you’d like to forget about someone you’ve loved so deeply and erase those memories, you can’t. Refrain from ignoring them no matter how hard the breakup was. You’ve learned extremely valuable lessons that shall never be forgotten.
Everyone that comes into your life has a specific meaning or role. And when I say everyone, I mean every single being/creature. Some of them are here to love you, to teach you things about yourself, to teach you about the world, etc. They can show you what you want or don’t want. What you’re attracting to your life. If you keep attracting the same things and so on.
You aren’t meant to have sex with every person that captivates you.No matter how beautiful or how high of a sex appeal they have. I feel I had to say this separately because a close friend of mine lets his pheromones guide him instead of his intuition.A lot of people doing the same thing.
As I stated earlier, some people have different things to teach us apart from lust and pleasure. When you act on those two things alone you miss out on the other possibilities. Please take the time to fully develop an encounter or relationship before acting on impulse.
You meet someone new and the connection seems instant. The conversations flow naturally. Everything is so perfect but you catch a glimpse of something that gives you a sense of doubt. That’s called a red flag. Pay attention to it. Maybe this relationship is headed down the wrong road or maybe this is something you shouldn’t be getting into in the first place. We often ignore the red flags in the beginning and try to play the victim in the end. As soon as you see it, step back and look at the bigger picture.
What’s the lesson here? Why are they talking to me? What do I need from them? What do they need from me? Is this a person I’m supposed to befriend? Will this person be my lover? Take time to figure it out.
I was talking to this guy not too long ago; I’ll call him Jake. Jake told me that I was absolutely beautiful, blah blah blah…he thinks I’m cool, blah blah blah. We met through mutual friends and then reconnected on Facebook. He was kind of cool so I said to myself, “Why not?” Something felt off but I let it continue anyway. I found out he had a girlfriend that he failed to mention in the beginning.
Before cutting him off immediately, Spirit said wait. There was a reason he came to me. He needed my help. He needed honest advice from me and nothing else. I cutoff the flirting and became the Concerned &Helpful Tai. I didn’t care for him too much anyway. He’s cool though.
A few weeks later a man approached me while I was at work. He was there with his wife and her little sister. They told me about this mentorship program they had. Long story short, we met up every 2 to 3 days so they could try to sell me on this program. It was kind of fishy at first but they were so sweet and spirit kept telling me to go.
The first red flag was when someone said all lives matter. The second was when I noticed they had absolutely no interest in my plans for my future. We mainly spoke about what my future would look like in this program.So what did I learn from them? They helped me make my 2-year plan (that I always procrastinated with). My top priorities are clarified more than ever before. They taught me to be more receptive, realize my goals in life, and how to go about achieving those things.
Moral of the story: short-term or long-term, everything has a purpose. Sometimes we make mistakes. Pay attention to the little things; signs, flags, etc. Once you let these things come to surface and let your feelings fully develop, you’ll be able to decipher the relationship.