Have you ever been hurt before? Not only by a lover but a family member, colleague, friend, acquaintance; anyone really. Most of you will say yes. Do you remember how it changed you? Did it break your ability to trust? Did it “force” you to turn cold? Having trust issues is not an uncommon trait in today’s society. I just want to know how we went from being upset with one person to being upset with everyone.When did we make it ok to retaliate on any and everybody because of the individual that hurt us?
We have become ruthless. You can try to think of a better name or call yourself a savage but in reality you’re just broken. So chill tf out. Stop avoiding your problems and allow yourself to experience pain. It’s ok to be sad (for a short period of time). That’s how you grow. Learn your lessons and forgive. Go watch Inside Out.
Did you learn anything yet? We’ll see. Imagine that you’ve been in an awesome relationship for 5 years. You are madly in love with this person but…uh oh…you find out that they were cheating the entire time. What do you do? Leave and try to make yourself whole again? Or would you rather lash out like the woman in this video?
Remember: Being petty is not healthy.
Stop saying you’ll never trust anyone ever again. That just means the person who hurt you still has control over you. You’re constantly reminded of what they did; paranoid that someone else will do the same and ruining current relationships because you haven’t let it go. LET IT GO!!
Yes, I apologize on behalf of all human beings. [Insert name here] shouldn’t have hurt you. You didn’t love too hard. That’s what we’re supposed to do. You weren’t too open. Open and honest is what we should be. You were just interested in the wrong person. Or maybe they just had a lesson to teach you. Everyone wasn’t meant to be in your life forever.
This opinion of mine has the experience to back it up: you should not be in a serious relationship before the age of 26. There is so much out here in the world to see. So many experiences to be had; people to meet. Getting broken at a young age turns you into a paranoid adult (a majority of the time). Let’s not forget immature and selfish. People are so afraid to be alone or be by themselves but how will you ever find out who you are and what you want out of life? You’re too busyavoiding the “lonely”.
Now I’m not saying go out here and be in a bunch of meaningless relationships, unless that’s what you want to do. I’m telling you to live your life to the fullest. Be honest and upfront about what you want and need. Get to know people. Don’t be afraid to tell them how you feel. Life is too short for false evidence appearing real (fear). Treat others how you want to be treated (typical but true).
I’ve been in one relationship my entire life and I can honestly say that I loved him with no restrictions. I was open, honest, caring, romantic (in the beginning) and then *sigh* he broke my heart. I was furious! Even though I wanted revenge I knew it wouldn’t make me feel better. Though I don’t really trust him anymore, I don’t plan on deeming anyone else untrustworthy. I went against my own rules. I’m dealing with the pain and I’ve learned my lesson.
Heartbreaks are tough but we have to learn how to build from them in a positive way. Try listening toEfflictim or Love Hard by WZRD. Or maybe Brokenhearted by Brandy. Ok, I’m done. Later I’ll post a playlist titled: Heart Broken but Dealing with It.
I encourage you to share your stories of heartache or broken trust. It’s ok, this is a judge free zone. Trolls can be ignored.