And while we’re on the subject, optimism does nothing for me either. If you’re like me, you’re a realist. I can look at a quote and say, “Ha! That’s cute.” Then I’m back in the real world. Not saying that people who love quotes aren’t living in the real world but…you know.
Even though optimism & quotes don’t work, I still need something to keep me going before I disappear into my mind and get nothing done. Tough love is the key to my problems.Even my best friend knows this. I literally have to come down hard on myself to stay motivated.
Here are some examples:
I just started going to the gym again. I do 2 miles on the treadmill. I run 1 mile, walk a ½ mile at an incline, and then run the last ½ mile. Usually after the first 10 minutes I’m ready to quit:
Me to Myself: “Tai, you can be in a relationship with a negro who didn’t care about you for 3 years but you can’t run on this treadmill for 10 more minutes?”
Me: “Ugh, fine (jerk).”
This year I moved back to Las Vegas and have been battling thoughts of returning to my hometown, even though I was miserable there. I still miss it.
Me to Myself: “You could rot in Cleveland for the past 7 years but you can’t stay in Vegas for 1?”
Me: “Fine, dang.”
After leaving my boyfriend of 3 years, I find myself lonely at times.
Me to Myself: “So you were single up until you turned 21 and now you wanna say you’re lonely? Go read a book or something.”
Me: *rolls eyes then picks up book*
Now you may be thinking, “But that’s all negative…pessimist.” Real things from my past experiences get me up and running. I can’t get motivated by thinking of the future or froufrou things. A lot of us feel like we must do what others doing order to stay motivated but end up failing or giving up. Everything doesn’t work for everybody.
All I’m saying is find what works for you. Staying motivated is sometimes a full-time job because negative thoughts usually outweigh the good. We keep letting our ambitions burnout and then we end up miss-guided & stuck. Especially when its ‘New Year Resolution’ season. We start off strong and finish weak. Sometimes you need to remind yourself of where you’ve been to get you to where you want to be.
Which is why I love tough love. Are you going to sit there and wallow in self-pity or get up and do something? Hopefully you chose not to be pathetic (tough love). But seriously, you can always change your current situation. How bad do you want it?
Please share the ways you motivate yourself to help other readers (and me) get some new ideas.