We won’t always be able to predict who our “leaders” will be. You can’t make someone love you. You can’t even make them like you. You won’t always be able to change someone’s mind or make them see things from your point of view. We can’t always decide our fate or what outcomes will arise from the choices we make. We can’t change the weather when we’re too cold or too hot (though, scientists are trying). We can’t do everything we want to do and sometimes we’re not supposed to.
Trying to control things we can’t change makes us crazy, depressed, stressed, and frantic. And it’s not even just trying; worrying about things you can’t control can make you crazy too. So, in what ways can we get over our unrequited loves? Idiots on the internet who love confrontation? Jobs you’re not meant to have? Friends you love who no longer want to be around you? People on the street who don’t acknowledge you? Presidents who want to destroy you? Hate groups who want you gone? People who want your rights taken away? This list can go on and on.
I’m going through a few of these things currently but I’ve accepted the fact that I no longer wish to continue down those stressful paths. I had to accept what I could not change and figure out other ways I could make myself happy again. We must remember that some things were never meant to be and some things just aren’t meant to be right now. We’ll find happiness once we let go of our worries.
Here are the steps that were very helpful for me (hopefully they’ll help you too):
(Photo of my worries that I gave to the Universe)
1. Make a list of the things that worry you; things you’re currently tolerating.
I did this 14-day program called Unblock My Energy, you can participate by going to www.unblockmyenergy.com. Anyway, the very first step was to make a list of 25 things you’re tolerating right now. Check off the things you can fix on your own (something you can control). Rip out the things you can’t control and release them into the Universe or God’s hands.
2. Stop dwelling.
This is for my fellow over thinkers. Distract yourself by completing the tasks you’ve been putting off (maybe things on your list from step 1?) or do something fun.
3. Meditate (obviously)
I found some guided meditations for letting go & releasing control.Meditation is powerful you just need to be willing to practice it daily.
According to Thai Nguyen from TheUtopianLife.com, journalism evokes mindfulness, helps you to achieve goals, build emotional intelligence, and improves communication skills.
5.Brainstorm with someone you trust.
Someone very close to me has a lot going on in his life right now.He’s super stressed so I told him to sit down and tell me about his problems.By the end of our discussion we came up with ways he could approach each issue and things didn’t seem as bad as he made them seem.
You can’t control everything. In one of my videos I said that I was still in love with my ex. Shortly after it was posted I came to the conclusion that I can’t make him love me the way that I love him. I also can’t teach him how to love me the way I need to be loved. All I can do now is release him and wish him all the best. I hope he finds true happiness and more.
I know a lot of us are worried about the recent presidential elections but it’s out of our hands. My teacher Trenayce said that love is the greatest force in the Universe. If we can remember that and spread love more often, our president shouldn’t matter. We can still make changes in our communities. Our well-being is still in our control. Trump won. So what?