Life is rough. This is something most, if not all, people know. Growth is a very scary path. For some, it starts when you hit rock bottom. For others, it begins when you are broken and in need of a fix. On your way to reaching your full potential you are going to run into some stuuuuffffff. And by stuff, I mean some S-H-I-T.
A lot of people don’t want to grow and change because staying the same is way too easy. It’s so comfortable; you don’t have to work hard. All you have to do is deal with the normal upsets life has to offer: death & taxes. Yeah they’re missing out on a fulfilling life but who cares, right?
Enough about the Settlers and back to the “Path of Growth”. There will be setbacks…oh girl there will be setbacks. But you just have to push through. This can’t all be for nothing. Remember that everything you are going through is exactly what you asked for. I mean sure you didn’t ask to be brokenhearted by some fool, rejected by your dream job, or to make enough money to barely get-by but, you must believe that all of this is for something greater. Otherwise, why would you even go through it?
Give it time. Dive right in. Get through your S-H-I-T phase because in the end it will all be worth it. I can’t really say for sure because I’m still getting through this…phase but I need to believe that there is gold at the end of this road. I am on my way to absolute paradise and I can feel it. Hope is something we need to have. We must be consistent or else we’ll backslide hard. And please trust that you do not want to go through all of this mess again.
I fell in love hard, ok? And it was one of the realest things I have ever felt. Once I realized things weren’t mutual I was completely distraught. I thought I knew pain before then. Pah! Living in the same city as him caused me to be his puppet. Ok…I won’t blame the city but I still loved him and just wanted to make it work. Realizing my options, my only way out was to leave my hometown. So I packed up ALL of my things and moved to the other side of the country.
Those first few months were brutal especially since I had no job or friends or even a love interest. All I could do was sit around and think about everything. Every. Little. Thing. That’s when I found out that the first phase of growth was mourning. And mourn I did.
I cried alone in my car. I cried while I hiked. I cried while my roommates were away at work. I felt every bit of my sadness. I chilled with depression & loneliness for weeks (months really). It was hard yet…magical. But to be clear, I didn’t only cry over my past relationship. I cried over every upset in my life.
The Mourning Phase may not sound like something you’d be interested in (it really sucks at first) but you need it. You’ll notice your weaknesses; areas that need the most work. You will see where you went wrong in your past mistakes and start to learn from them. This phase is a bitch (excuse my language) but you need it. You can control how long this phase will last but if you’re not careful, “woe is me” can turn into reality. Take what you need and move on. Don’t deny any feelings you may have. It’s ok.
Next was the Awareness Phase. I had to realize what I wanted. I wrote down my priorities and found that I needed to venture back to my hometown and give it a real chance. In my video, What Do You Want (https://youtu.be/Rx2nosZ6JI0), I was still in this phase. This was way more fun than the Aching, Darkness period because it gives you life and hope. You get to dream big, write it all down, and figure out your plan.
Now, own to this current situation. This is like the in-between stage. Everything seems oh…so…slow. I feel like this is the step before the final victory stage (if not I’ll let you know). Everything is SOOOOOOO slow. Jobs take forever to come through. Other things seem to be at a halt. I think it’s because you get so excited and anxious for the future so the “now” just seems bland.
I know that meditating and staying positive will help me focus on today instead of my future and get me through this “Ugh” phase. Spirit told me so. But I would like to know some of the things that you do to keep you going. Please feel free to let me know in the comment section or email me at email@example.com.
We are all going through some stuff and we don’t have to do it alone. We can get through these phases together and reach that full potential that we all want. So help me help you help us…please.