For us to hate being “labeled” and put into categories it seems we just enjoy doing it ourselves. We keep searching for new categories to fit in in order to better understand who we are. Personally, the only thing I want to call myself is Tai-Renee; no other label is necessary. The longer we live, the more we learn. So, with that being said, you become a new person every day. And pretty soon those labels you’ve placed upon yourself will begin to fade. Your brain will hatch new ideas and you’ll awake with a different outlook on life. Everything changes with time; it’s inevitable.
Anyway, I see a lot of people claiming to be introverts. There are too many books on being an introvert these days. They’re probably just looking for profit while introversion is still a hot topic. First, there was Quiet by Susan Cain. Then came the storm of “introverts are more superior than extroverts” books that have not yet found its end. Quiet was a great read but I really don’t see the need for the rest of them. If you’re interested, Bustle.com has a list of books ALL introverts should read: http://bit.ly/2hVjtQi
Side Note: Extroverts are more talkative yet you can’t really find any books on extroversion. For introverts to be so soft-spoken they sure do have a lot to say. I guess it’s from being “unheard” too long or whatever.
Let’s take a look at some of the common characteristics of each one:
A person who is shy & reserved. They are said to be more self-sufficient, focused, observant, in touch with their feelings, and so on.
Someone who is outgoing. They are talkative, enjoy being the center of attention, act first and think later, confident, energetic, etc.
If I had to choose between the two, I’d choose the one less talked about; ambivert. Reading through the descriptions there were things I identified with in each category. I used to be super shy but I grew out of it (eventually) and built a decent amount of self-confidence. And sometimes I act first and think later but most times I think first, but not that often.
I learned of ambiverts after seeing this picture on Instagram:
When I saw this I was like, “Oh, ok. Here I am.” I think most people are ambiverts. And when I say “most” I mean the majority of us. We’re all a little bit of both so now where does that leave us? It kind of defeats the purpose of even finding out where you fit in. Here are a couple of articles on being an ambivert (because they don’t have books for us either):
I guess it’s not a complete waste. Moments like this help you figure out personality traits you have, ways you can overcome challenges in your life, all that good stuff. But don’t get so lost in it that you find yourself trying to “stay true” to the “superior” personality type that you possess. I’ll stop using so many quotations but I’m sure you’re catching my drift. Don’t let these personality types rule your life. Take what you need from it to get to know yourself a little bit better and then move on. From one ambivert to the ambivert that you probably are, one type is not more superior so don’t let them fool you.